I am not what you see.
You are not what I see.
Depth is without perception.
“Judgment,” is a term that usually carries a negative connotation, a term that often relates to the physical world based on personal preference. How do you judge another? Do you think you know someone by seeing their pictures on social media? Or based on limited interactions you’ve had? Do you look at them and decide you want to know who they are because of their physical appearance, or brush them aside for the same reason? Your eyes deceive you; a world lived based on appearance is a false world, a deceptive world. I am not what you see and you are not what I see because although on the outside we may look different from one another, we are the same. When I look at you, I am only looking at my own reflection staring back, but with different eyes. We may fight different battles, but we all fight; we may love different people or activities, but we all love; we may all have had experiences that taught us the hard way, but we all learn. There are elements about being human that each of us can relate to and experience collectively. We are the same. The attributes that make us different: our characteristics, our sense of humor, our drive, our personality—these deeper traits are not things we wear on our faces; it takes more than just an eye to see. And even then, do you still continue to judge? To see another for who they really are you must look without your eyes, but with empathy: to feel what they feel, to connect deeper. Depth is without perception.
The way to look at another is the way you would want them to see you, without personal preferences clouding your vision. To realize that you are looking at someone who also experiences the same world you do, in the same human way. “Direct life’s actions towards others, who are really oneself.” Patanjali, the author of the ancient text, the Yoga Sutras, describes the five Yamas within the eight limbs of yoga as being ethical disciplines: rules of social conduct, which come from the understanding that we are all one and the same. Ahimsa falls under this category of the five Yamas. Ahimsa means non-violence, but not in the sense we understand it from direct translation; it means “living in non-violence is pure, absolute love.” After reading this, to me, it means not judging others. To judge someone you are not practicing pure and absolute love. What does your judgment of them say about you?
Our response toward another shows us the truth behind our own character. After we initially judge someone on their physical appearance, we continue the judgment process to identify traits as being “flaws” or “strengths” in their character, which we attribute to equal something “good” or “bad” about that person. It is only then that we decide if they are worthy enough for our empathy: if their physical selves are to our preference and their characteristics are to our liking; we recognize them as being similar to us and like them for that reason. Instead, why not show empathy first? We are all human and our ability to empathize is what unites us, making our collective experience one and the same. To not show empathy for another who does not pass your judgment preference is something that takes you further away from the ethical ideal of Ahimsa. Pure love is having empathy for those despite the fact that they are “different” from our selves. Since we are all reflections of one another, even those different have something to teach if you take a moment to view them as a fellow human that walks beside you, worthy of relation through empathy. “Truth depth” is based on ability to empathize; to move beyond all judgments and put our feet in the shoes of the soul next to us. True depth frees us from our egos, as we push that aside to relate to someone else. True depth is not something you will ever “see” someone wear on their face or otherwise. True depth is the truth behind your eyes and mine.