You know that song, “Blank Space” by Taylor Swift? The first time I heard it I felt like it would gain popularity, but not because it’s a catchy song, I thought it would be popular because of how many girls this song might be true for. A lot of women might feel they can relate to the lyrics, and guys too might be like, “I know a crazy girl like that.” In the song Taylor makes herself sound (and look in the YouTube video) pretty cray cray. However… I am here to say, “crazy girls” do it better. You should want one as your friend, best friend and lover.
The “crazy” girls I’m talking about aren’t psycho, they won’t, like, boil a bunny in your kitchen. The crazy girls I’m talking about just have a healthy dose of cray in ‘em. Here’s what I mean: it’s these girls that are the passionate, creative, cultured, particular, picky -but knows what she wants, and can be, at times, feisty as f*ck… expect that if you pull some sh*t with her she will put you in your place. Why girls like this get a bad rep: they aren’t afraid to be real with you. This is the type of girl who is in-tune with her emotions, meaning, she feels her own feelings and probably yours too. She wants the best out of life and isn’t afraid to reach for it. If she’s your friend, best friend or lover then she probably wants the best for you too, and will push you toward it. She expects that from herself and from you. You hate to love her for it, but you do.
I’ve been called “crazy” a time or two. Last year I dated someone who said, “Sara, all girls are crazy, you are no exception.” Well, I guess he chooses the passionate ones. After that ended I thought, “I bet I would really like his ex-girlfriends, we probably have a lot in common.” What I think he meant by what he said is that I am no exception in my ability to feel the wide-range of human emotion: yes, I get jealous, I get mad, I get happy, I get sad. I am not afraid of these feelings I feel. I also wouldn’t be afraid to share how I feel with my partner-in-crime. I embrace “feeling”… and looking back, I am proud to have shown him how to feel those feelings too.
I once read that a man falls in love with the woman who helps him discover his own ability to feel, that he yearns for the one who’s “aliveness” makes him feel his own aliveness, too. Well honey, that “aliveness” comes as a result of being exposed to a spectrum of emotions, which is exactly what you get when you chose a girl with some cray in her. She might help you feel feelings you’ve never experienced before -the good and the bad, but don’t kid yourself, you know you love her wild ride. It’s what gets you up in the morning because you plain don’t know what to expect from your woman that day. And because of that you’re never bored… and secretly you love and cherish her even more for it. Plain Jane is the predictable movie that puts you to sleep, but Wild Whitney is the whole damn theater. Don’t act like you wouldn’t be stoked if you got access to every film.
In relationships a crazy girl might get a little crazy. If she acts this way it is probably because she wants to know that you are hers and that she is yours. When a crazy girl is mad at you she may give you the silent treatment, which she knows drives you crazy, just take the hint and apologize. OR she may blow up your phone (personally never been a fan of this route because it is less effective), but crazy girls do what crazy girls do. Again, just apologize. When a crazy girl is crazy in love with you she’ll make you feel like a king, which is one of the reasons she would be hard to let go of if it didn’t work out.
Think about all the girls in your life that are friends. Most likely it is the “crazy girl” who you turn to the most. Why? Because she’s your biggest cheerleader. How? Because she knows exactly how you feel and feels it with you, and because of that you feel understood, completely. She’s kind and compassionate when you need her to be and will be your biggest supporter when she knows you have an uphill battle ahead. She’ll inspire you with her passion and at the same time will probably keep you guessing, but that’s why you love her friendship: she’s not only your friend but your muse too.
Crazy girls choose other crazy girls as friends. This happens for obvious reasons. Crazy girls are crazy passionate and because of this they like to be around other crazy passionate people. A crazy girl knows the way to another crazy girl’s heart. They build each other up and each time they are together it feels like the fire and passion they both have just grows as it flows between them. Other’s do notice it and are attracted to it.
Crazy girls have drive and seek inspiration at every turn. Nothing is hotter than a girl on a mission. Miss Crazy might be called “crazy” or even a “crazy bitch,” but you ain’t got nothin’ on Miss Crazy Bitch because she feels like she’s got the world behind her. Call her crazy, call her a bitch, but a woman that expects the best, gets it -and that only makes the one who calls her “crazy” just a fool who didn’t see the world in her eyes. It’s that same crazy girl that probably looks for inspiration all around her because she understands how important it is to feel grounded by being astounded. Approaching each day with a fresh pair of eyes eliminates all her problems… And that’s something only a crazy girl would say.
Lets just be honest: in the world we live in, you have to be a little bit “off” to follow your heart. Yet, a crazy girl is more-likely to follow hers. She may not have found balance between her head and her heart because her heart always wins, which DOES make her a little coo-coo-catchu, but at least the girl has heart. And when it feels like the world constantly says “no” to her, she’s even probably crazy enough to continue to say “yes” to it, which not only makes her special but rare. She’s better for it and she’ll be better because of it.
Crazy girls just do it better. It’s these girls that are fiery, heartfelt, full of life and wonder. It’s these girls that blossom into the most beautiful women. They are happy because they know their own self-worth. They are independent because they have confidence. Chances are, if you know one, they are some of the most creative, colorful, open-hearted individuals that have the best stories and the greatest lessons behind them. Cheers to my cray cray ladies and to the people that love them!